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November 7, 2017

How to Maximize Relationship Therapy

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How to Maximize Relationship Therapy

You’ve been fighting a lot lately. You decide a professional might be able to help. A friend gives you a referral and you make the appointment. The two of you drive separately from work, arrive at the calm office, listen to the noise machine whir as you sit side by side scrolling through social media, […]

October 20, 2017

Family Affairs Podcast

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Family Affairs Podcast

Indigo is back on Family Affairs! New Episode: Overcome Infidelity – Or Don’t. A letter from a listener sparked this conversation (which turned into a whole show) about infidelity. Cheating is the oldest and most challenging story in the sex and relationship book. Anyone who has experienced it first hand – or been witness to […]

September 29, 2017

A Better Metaphor for Sex

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A Better Metaphor for Sex

I recently had the pleasure of seeing sexuality educator Al Vernacchio speak at the Sex & Intimacy Summit in Salt Lake City. Al wants to change the way we talk about sex in America, particularly with teenagers, starting by employing a new and better metaphor for sex. Shifting paradigms to a healthier, consent driven sexuality […]

September 1, 2017

The Four Agreements

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The Four Agreements

As a therapist, I recommend numerous books and psychological tools. Some are suitable only for specific issues and others, like The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, are a useful framework for a diverse array of problematic thinking. Whether a person suffers from mild jealousy or crippling anxiety, relational conflict or loss of direction, The […]

August 14, 2017

My Chronic Pain

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My Chronic Pain

More than 1 in 10 Americans experiences chronic pain. Women are more than twice as likely to be afflicted with chronic pain then men. Over the years I have had dozens of clients and friends, mostly women, who have dealt with chronic pain and had their problems minimized by family and medical providers. (A well-circulated […]

July 28, 2017

Family Affairs Podcast

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Family Affairs Podcast

Indigo is back on the Family Affairs podcast – a show where we discuss everything from online dating, to divorce, to common (and not-so-common) sexual issues. Episode 61 explores Acupuncture for Fertility and Libido. Join host, Ben Robbins, and guest host, Indigo Stray Conger, for a discussion with Debra Kuhn Gerson, an acupuncturist and leading authority in women’s health, […]

July 18, 2017

Beyond the Binary

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Beyond the Binary

Over the past several decades the vernacular we have around sexual identity has shifted considerably. Those shifts have provided nuance and depth of understanding which previous generations did not have when conceiving of their sexual selves. Most of us know about the revelations that came mid-century from Kinsey and the studies he conducted through his […]

July 4, 2017

Libido Discrepancy

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Libido Discrepancy

Libido discrepancy, or the difference between how often a person and their partner want to get physical, is among the most common issues that couples face. For decades the field of sex and relationship therapy focused on increasing connection and arousal in partners with this problem. Therapists utilized suggestions like adding more date nights or […]

June 26, 2017

Online Dating

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Online Dating

WHY IS IT SO EXHAUSTING? Modern people looking for love go through phases… We post multiple profiles and go out on three dates a week. Then we unplug and hibernate, depleted by the mind numbing process of swiping right. We extol the virtues of a dating style where we can find others with the same […]

June 19, 2017

Living Poly: Grief

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Living Poly: Grief

In the poly community we spend a lot of time discussing compersion – the feeling of joy for your beloved when they are basking in their love for someone else. Contrasted with jealousy, compersion is a delicious experience, where the feeling of love grows exponentially in a relationship instead of creating a sense of competition […]

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