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As a therapist, I recommend numerous books and psychological tools. Some are suitable only for specific issues and others, like The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, are a useful framework for a diverse array of problematic thinking. Whether a person suffers from mild jealousy or crippling anxiety, relational conflict or loss of direction, The […]

More than 1 in 10 Americans experiences chronic pain. Women are more than twice as likely to be afflicted with chronic pain then men. Over the years I have had dozens of clients and friends, mostly women, who have dealt with chronic pain and had their problems minimized by family and medical providers. (A well-circulated […]

Indigo is back on the Family Affairs podcast – a show where we discuss everything from online dating, to divorce, to common (and not-so-common) sexual issues. Episode 61 explores Acupuncture for Fertility and Libido. Join host, Ben Robbins, and guest host, Indigo Stray Conger, for a discussion with Debra Kuhn Gerson, an acupuncturist and leading authority in women’s health, […]

Over the past several decades the vernacular we have around sexual identity has shifted considerably. Those shifts have provided nuance and depth of understanding which previous generations did not have when conceiving of their sexual selves. Most of us know about the revelations that came mid-century from Kinsey and the studies he conducted through his […]

Libido discrepancy, or the difference between how often a person and their partner want to get physical, is among the most common issues that couples face. For decades the field of sex and relationship therapy focused on increasing connection and arousal in partners with this problem. Therapists utilized suggestions like adding more date nights or […]

WHY IS IT SO EXHAUSTING? Modern people looking for love go through phases… We post multiple profiles and go out on three dates a week. Then we unplug and hibernate, depleted by the mind numbing process of swiping right. We extol the virtues of a dating style where we can find others with the same […]

In the poly community we spend a lot of time discussing compersion – the feeling of joy for your beloved when they are basking in their love for someone else. Contrasted with jealousy, compersion is a delicious experience, where the feeling of love grows exponentially in a relationship instead of creating a sense of competition […]

Indigo is back on the Family Affairs podcast – a show where we discuss everything from online dating, to divorce, to common (and not-so-common) sexual issues. Episode 59 explores What To Do When Your Partner Is Kinkier Than You? Join host, Ben Robbins, and guest host, Indigo Stray Conger, for a fun discussion about love and relationships and how […]

People often tell me they prefer to see a “life coach” not a therapist. Coaching is all the rage. What’s the deal? Even with all the medications Americans take for mental health, seeking help for depression, anxiety, or even relationship concerns is still considered taboo. Seeing a “coach” sounds good. There’s no stigma to seeing a […]