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Back so soon on the show? Yes I am! Loss of libido is one of the biggest issues couples walk into my office with. While it’s totally normal for sex drive to ebb and flow as we age and cope with stress, it’s also totally normal to feel frustrated with the amount of sex we’re […]

I’m back on Family Affairs! This time I’m with the fabulous Lisa Thomas and Matt LeBauer, as well as host Ben Robbins. We have some light-hearted fun and discuss strategies for getting through the holidays with your family. Listen to Family Affairs Episode “Survive the Holidays” here or wherever you get your podcasts.

Lindsey Kline of Rooster magazine consults myself and another sex therapist to answer this question in her just published article. Read more here.

A technique I like to touch on with all of my clients in open relationships, whether they are starting one for the first time or are seasoned practitioners, is the simple “3D” concept. It’s pretty basic – when you begin seeing a new partner, create a safe container in your current relationship(s) by making sure […]

You’ve been fighting a lot lately. You decide a professional might be able to help. A friend gives you a referral and you make the appointment. The two of you drive separately from work, arrive at the calm office, listen to the noise machine whir as you sit side by side scrolling through social media, […]

Indigo is back on Family Affairs! New Episode: Overcome Infidelity – Or Don’t. A letter from a listener sparked this conversation (which turned into a whole show) about infidelity. Cheating is the oldest and most challenging story in the sex and relationship book. Anyone who has experienced it first hand – or been witness to […]

I recently had the pleasure of seeing sexuality educator Al Vernacchio speak at the Sex & Intimacy Summit in Salt Lake City. Al wants to change the way we talk about sex in America, particularly with teenagers, starting by employing a new and better metaphor for sex. Shifting paradigms to a healthier, consent driven sexuality […]

As a therapist, I recommend numerous books and psychological tools. Some are suitable only for specific issues and others, like The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, are a useful framework for a diverse array of problematic thinking. Whether a person suffers from mild jealousy or crippling anxiety, relational conflict or loss of direction, The […]

More than 1 in 10 Americans experiences chronic pain. Women are more than twice as likely to be afflicted with chronic pain then men. Over the years I have had dozens of clients and friends, mostly women, who have dealt with chronic pain and had their problems minimized by family and medical providers. (A well-circulated […]