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A technique I like to touch on with all of my clients in open relationships, whether they are starting one for the first time or are seasoned practitioners, is the simple “3D” concept. It’s pretty basic – when you begin seeing a new partner, create a safe container in your current relationship(s) by making sure […]

You’ve been fighting a lot lately. You decide a professional might be able to help. A friend gives you a referral and you make the appointment. The two of you drive separately from work, arrive at the calm office, listen to the noise machine whir as you sit side by side scrolling through social media, […]

Indigo is back on Family Affairs! New Episode: Overcome Infidelity – Or Don’t. A letter from a listener sparked this conversation (which turned into a whole show) about infidelity. Cheating is the oldest and most challenging story in the sex and relationship book. Anyone who has experienced it first hand – or been witness to […]

I recently had the pleasure of seeing sexuality educator Al Vernacchio speak at the Sex & Intimacy Summit in Salt Lake City. Al wants to change the way we talk about sex in America, particularly with teenagers, starting by employing a new and better metaphor for sex. Shifting paradigms to a healthier, consent driven sexuality […]

As a therapist, I recommend numerous books and psychological tools. Some are suitable only for specific issues and others, like The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, are a useful framework for a diverse array of problematic thinking. Whether a person suffers from mild jealousy or crippling anxiety, relational conflict or loss of direction, The […]

More than 1 in 10 Americans experiences chronic pain. Women are more than twice as likely to be afflicted with chronic pain then men. Over the years I have had dozens of clients and friends, mostly women, who have dealt with chronic pain and had their problems minimized by family and medical providers. (A well-circulated […]

Indigo is back on the Family Affairs podcast – a show where we discuss everything from online dating, to divorce, to common (and not-so-common) sexual issues. Episode 61 explores Acupuncture for Fertility and Libido. Join host, Ben Robbins, and guest host, Indigo Stray Conger, for a discussion with Debra Kuhn Gerson, an acupuncturist and leading authority in women’s health, […]

Over the past several decades the vernacular we have around sexual identity has shifted considerably. Those shifts have provided nuance and depth of understanding which previous generations did not have when conceiving of their sexual selves. Most of us know about the revelations that came mid-century from Kinsey and the studies he conducted through his […]

Libido discrepancy, or the difference between how often a person and their partner want to get physical, is among the most common issues that couples face. For decades the field of sex and relationship therapy focused on increasing connection and arousal in partners with this problem. Therapists utilized suggestions like adding more date nights or […]