What Is Consent?

For many, physical intimacy is among the best aspects of dating and being in a relationship. It’s a form of deep connection where you can feel desired and express your desire for your partner. And the physical pleasure aspect is obviously pretty great, too.

Whether it’s a one-night stand, a long-term relationship, or something in between, it’s imperative that any sexually intimate experience only happens when there’s clear, enthusiastic consent from both sides.

Bumble consults sexperts about why getting enthusiastic consent is so important, and some of the nuances you might encounter. Check out the full article, or read an excerpt of my contributions below:

Therapist Indigo Stray Conger says it doesn’t have to be a mood killer to ask your partner whether you can kiss them, take their clothes off, or beyond.

“In fact,” she says, “this can heighten excitement while simultaneously ensuring that you’re respecting your partner’s boundaries.” In other words, asking for consent can make your intimate connections even sexier.

In more established relationships, it’s not always necessary to ask for explicit consent each time you engage. However, it’s important to always pay attention to verbal and physical cues from the other person to make sure they’re wholly on board. If you sense any reluctance, you should get verbal confirmation from them.