Exploring Orgasm
Insider dives into Different Orgasms people with vulvas can have, including toys and techniques to achieve them.
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Clitoral Orgasms: A newer type of sex toy, called clitoral stimulators, can be great for clitoral orgasms as they use suction instead of vibration, says sex therapist Indigo Stray Conger, LMFT, CST, who practices at Mile High Psychotherapy. The most popular toy in this category is The Womanizer.
G-Spot Orgasms: You can stimulate your G-spot to have an orgasm by just using your fingers, but you can also try a sex toy such as a pulsator, particularly a curved one so it hits the G-spot more easily, says Conger. Pulsators can thrust back and forth on their own, easily stroking the G-spot.
Blended Orgasms: Conger recommends using a toy that can stimulate your G-spot and clitoris at the same time, such as a pulsator that also has an external piece that vibrates on the clitoris. "Rabbit" vibrators are a great choice for blended orgasms.
Anal Orgasms: An anal orgasm is primarily induced by stimulating nerve endings in and around the anal sphincter, which is the opening of the anus, says Conger. She says anal orgasms may be more accessible to some people than to others based on unique pelvic nerve pathways that may vary from person to person.
If you're new to anal stimulation try these tips from Conger:
Use plenty of lube and go slowly so as to not injure yourself.
Avoid over-stimulation whether using a toy, finger, penis, tongue, or toy. "A pleasurable sensation can quickly evolve into pain or irritation, leading muscles to tighten and orgasm to become less accessible," says Conger.
Remember nerve endings are at the mouth of the anus, not deep inside, so that's where the focus should be.
Never use the same toys both vaginally and anally to prevent infection.
Use toys specifically made for anal usage and avoid toys that can get lost inside the body or break off (such as anal beads attached with string or dildos that don't have a flared base).
A-Spot Orgasm: The A-spot is located at the mouth of the cervix, a few inches higher up the anterior vaginal wall from where the G-spot is located, says Conger.
"Sensations created through stimulating the A-spot tend to be intense; not everyone loves the feeling created by exploring this area. However, stimulating the A-spot for some female bodies can intensify orgasm to a level never felt before," says Conger.
It's important to move slowly and sensually when you're trying to stimulate this area, says Conger. She recommends starting by stimulating the nerve endings in the clitoris and G-spot before moving upwards towards the cervix.
"Initially, try the same type of stimulation you find enjoyable on other parts of your genitalia –– vibration, stroking, thrusting –– and then, if there's at least a hint of pleasure, explore other types of stimulation to see how the sensation shifts," says Conger.
You can use your fingers, or, if they aren't long enough or if you'd just prefer something else, use a toy that's long enough for deep penetration. You might also try to achieve a cervical orgasm by having sex in positions that allow for deep penetration, such as doggy.