Sliding into the DMs

Is direct messaging a stranger or acquaintance a good idea?

Bobby Box of AskMen explores this popular way to flirt and I weigh in with my opinion:

“Messaging a perfect stranger makes you seem like a Russian bot or just plain creepy,” states Indigo Stray Conger, LMFT, CST. “The person may never even see your message if it goes in their spam box.”

If you message an acquaintance, Conger recommends your messages be short and grammatically correct. “Don't mention a post from six months ago that you had to scroll five minutes to see,” she says. “Mention a common interest or friend and be forward. Say something like, ‘I notice you also like Florence and the Machine. Did you catch their show at Red Rocks last year?’”

“If they don't write back, don’t pester,” says Conger. “Don't take it personally, either. Women especially get a lot of unsolicited messages and may be uninterested in getting to know someone that way.”

Enjoy the full article at AskMen here.